From a patient of Brian Weiss MD:
"'I'm going to shoot myself and end this misery!
I've shot myself in the mouth, and now I can see my body. I'm still so
sad. I'm so tired. But I can't rest. Someone is here for me. He has
something to tell me. I should not have ended my life!'
And so Brian Weiss reflects on his patient's
'Themes of separation and loss plagued his
lifetime. This time they had led him to suicide. He had been warned
about not ending a life prematurely. But losses were occurring anew,
and grief had returned. Would he remember or would hopeless despair
overtake him once again?'" (Brian Weiss "Only Love is Real")
If you have a loved one who has committed
suicide, you can help them to heal... now! Here is what you can
do to help them.
From the Emailbag:
"Would a loved one who had committed suicide
remember in their next life and make another choice? Or would hopeless
despair overtake them once again and cause them to repeat their mistake?"
The answer is
"That depends... and there is something you can do to
help to ease their pain and to accelerate their healing."
If you have not already forgiven your loved
one for committing suicide, do so now. If you have forgiven them
already, do it again... this time forgive them for how you have
suffered in the aftermath of their suicide. Let them know that you
understand that they were unable to handle the extreme pressures of
their life. Let them know how much love and joy they had brought
to your life.
If you are in the habit of mourning your
loved one every day, change that habit into one of sending them
unconditional love every day. Know that each and every moment of
unconditional love you send them helps them to heal and rebuild
their energy field and brings them one step closer to a shot at
Know that every time you are joyful, you
are also sending your loved one some of your energy and this helps
them recover from their suicide. Your happiness is literally like
energy food that helps your loved one to move forward into their
next life. It helps them to set up more favorable circumstances
in their future life which can help them beat the suicidal charge
"As much as the suicidal personality feels able
to escape the world by getting rid of the body, reincarnation's
revolving door ensures that all hope (of escape) is short lived.
Those who learn that they have killed themselves in past lives are
quickly brought to the realization that suicide, far from being an
answer to life's problems is (instead) the violent breaking of the
lifeline. If the (suicide) could only realize the resulting
intensification of difficulty which must enter the life to come,
(suicide) would never be (attempted)." (Joel Fisher)
Suicide: "Going from being into nothingness
and finding there is no exit."
When it comes to suicide, here is the karmic
viewpoint on its impact:
Suicide is an experience that everyone must
go through in the cycle of reincarnation. It is like that hard class
in college that you would like to avoid but you have to take in order
to graduate. As much as you would like to help another pass that
course, they must take the exam alone... without any help.
Once suicide is experienced, it is a charge
that remains in their body for several lifetimes until it is worked
out. It is worked out when the individual no longer feels the
compulsion toward suicide as a means of solving problems.
When someone decides to take their own life,
it does not matter how much others love them, how nice their life is
on the outside, and how much they have to live for... they are locked
into their own private world of pain. Unless you have been through it
yourself, it is hard to understand the pain of this tragic isolation.
Even if you could "turn back time" to prevent a loved one's suicide,
it is likely that you could only have delayed it... you could not have
Part of how those who have passed on suffer...
is by watching how their suicide has adversely impacted those they
have left behind. So if you are suffering from a loved one's
departure... they have also experienced that suffering as if they
were you. It is worse for them because they caused your suffering.
The chakra - nearest to the wound inflicted
during the suicide - will be very weak when the new body for the next
life is formed. If the suicide effects the whole body, then all the
chakras will be weakened.
The individual will feel the urge to take
their own life periodically during their next life. The more times
in a row they kill themselves, the more intense and challenging their
problems become. Only when they gets through an entire lifetime
without killing themselves is the suicidal charge released.
"It is altogether unlawful to kill oneself... Wherefore suicide is
contrary to the inclination of nature, and to charity whereby every
man should love himself... Life is God's gift to man, and is subject
to His power, Who kills and makes to live. Hence whoever takes his
own life, sins against God... for it belongs to God alone to pronounce
sentence of death and life."(Thomas Aquinas "Summa Theologica")
If someone has have threatened to kill
themselves in an effort to control you, consider this.
Has someone threatened to commit suicide unless
you did and/or did not do something? Did you feel panic stricken...
like you were holding their life in your hands? Were you at a loss
about knowing what to do?
Here is a karma free way to handle a suicide
threat... in a way that serves you and the person threatening suicide.
Those who are really serious about committing
suicide take care to be alone and do what it takes to end their life.
Most times those who threaten suicide are usually not serious. Yet
you can never be sure of that. Committing suicide is an extremely
serious matter, karmically and reincarnationally. So if you are
confronted by someone who has made a threat, always take it seriously.
Call the nearest suicide hotline and ask for help in counseling the
suicidal individual. If there is no hotline, call a friend or a
neighbor. Get help - NOW!
Those who threaten suicide usually do so as
a tactic to get someone else to do or not to do something are not
really serious. In other words, if the suicidal individual is really
leaving the Earth then they will not be around to get the benefit of
whatever it is that they want the other person to do or not do. What
threatening suicide does is deflect attention from the real issues
between the people and put the attention on the immature person who
makes the threat. It stops any real communication and resolution
inside the relationship dead in its tracks.
Threatening suicide is a "strong arm" tactic
to manipulate another by playing on their compassion. So if the
compassionate person "fails" to take action on it, then they are the
"bad guy" for not caring. The real "bad guy" is the person who cannot
be real about handling their own emotions and so resorts to threatening
suicide. Those who commit suicide suffer terrible karmic consequences
making both threatening and committing suicide an extremely offensive
Clarifying Comments from the Community:
Why is suicide illegal?
A: Suicide is illegal because that is an outer
reflection of the inner workings of the laws of karma. Life is a gift
and destroying it is a choice that has consequences like any other
choice. The consequences of suicide is that problems a soul has
sought to avoid in one life become intensified in the next.
Does suicide result in different outcomes for
A: No. Suicides are treated the same under
karmic law, no exceptions. Suicides reincarnate relatively quickly
which - unfortunately - compounds their difficulties. Yes, they
do suffer 'bad' karma as a result of taking their own life which
primarily results in the physical/mental problems noted above.
Why do you say that karma is a law?
A: Karma is an independent natural 'law' which
operates like the laws of physics. While karma is created by our beliefs,
like human law, when it is broken, that choice creates consequences
for the person, regardless of their personal beliefs about karma.
Everyone is treated the same by karma, no exceptions. Suicides
will reap in the future, what they have sown in the past.
Can suicide ever be the "best option" for
to end suffering?
A: No. There is a common misperception
that a suicide is just a "necessary break from reality" where
the individual can get coaching/support from their guides and
just start over. Although souls do get coaching/support from
their guides, they have to start - by karmic law - from where
they left off. Only it is harder because they return with
impaired bodies and minds broken by their own former hands.
They will have to tackle their issues again... and hopefully
they will make better choices in the face of more difficult
circumstances. The best choice is not to commit suicide.
Do you believe that you are helping
people with this page -or- are you judging those who attempt
or commit suicide?
A: I do believe that I am helping people
by giving them accurate information (since I committed suicide
in past lives). I cannot judge anyone negatively because I
have been there and done that myself. I have great compassion
for those whose life challenges have brought them to this
page. My advice: suicide solves nothing... it only makes
things worse in the long run. JUST SAY NO TO SUICIDE!