Rules of the House #25b:
Past Life Carry Over Syndromes - Constellations
"A person whose life's vision is limited to
this one fleeting life is like the plow horse which views it's life's
work as a single furrow. Not able to appreciate how one furrow blends
with the many others. Not able to understand why there are rocks in the
furrow. Not able to realize why the furrow is so hard to plow."
When people enter their present life, they have
forgotten that they have chosen the difficulties they are facing now
to resolve unfinished business from past lives.
business is breaking behavior patterns that are no longer serve
Do you know someone who thinks, acts, and expects
as if they were royalty? It's the Prince Syndrome.
If you know a "Prince" (who was one in past lives),
you are bound to notice these marks of their royal status:
You must understand that just being in the
presence of the Prince makes you truly blessed. All the Prince has
to do is just be! Others in their lives are expected to do everything
else for them. After all, others are just minions and underlings whose
purpose and pleasure is to serve the Prince!
Very Self Centered:
Those in the Prince's life are allowed to exist
because they serve the monarch. What the Prince and those in the
royal's life have in common is that they both truly love the Prince.
Once the Prince's minions and underlings dare to offend them, they are
banished from the Kingdom, never to return.
Unconcerned with Contribution:
Princes receive but do not give. Petty things
like working to earn a living, doing their share of the chores, and
helping without being asked are not "for them" at all. All others
just exist to serve the Prince by financially supporting them and
tending to their bodily needs. Princes ask not how they can help but
instead demand all they require. Princes are unconcerned with
contributing to anyone but themselves because they feel it is their
Demands the Best:
Princes demand the best because that is their
birthright. They must have the best that life has to offer. They buy
fine clothes that they may wear only once. They buy new, bigger, and
better even if what they already have is perfectly serviceable. They
expect all others to support their princely lifestyle.
So what do you do if you have a Prince in your
life? "Boot them off the throne!" You are not doing them any favors
by supporting their princely arrogance. The Princes need to join the
rest of the world already in progress!
Do you know someone who acts as if they were in
a position of power? It's the High Power Syndrome.
If you know someone who is "high powered"
(or if you were in past lives), below is how it effects one's life.
The "High Power Syndrome" is closely related
to the "Prince Syndrome" in that both are the result of having had one
or more past lives of power. The difference is that "Princes" are
focused on the perks attached to a powerful position while the "High
Powered" are focused on the power itself.
The "High Powered" person identifies with
"the people on top": the "beautiful people", the "popular people", the
"powerful people", the "elites", and the "best of the best!" They set
high standards for themselves and are always striving for excellence.
They want to do and be the best in all aspects of life.
They desire and aspire to having the most money,
the most opportunity, the most experience, the most knowledge, and the
best of everything. They know this will drive them to become fit for
the power they crave.
The "High Powered" are focused on keeping power
by performing tasks that come with the powerful position. Their
exclusive focus on tasks causes them to be "extremely cold" with other
people when they "get in the way" of the task at hand. Other people
are judged by the powerful in relation to their usefulness in completing
the task. Compared to the task at hand, other people are viewed as
disposable and replaceable. The only indispensable person in this
process is, of course, the "High Powered" person themselves.
Despite their coldness to others, the "High
Powered" often inspire devotion and loyalty in other people. Others
may even go so far as to say they would "sacrifice" themselves for
the powerful person (up to and including "dying for" them). This is
because others believe that the "High Powered" person is necessary for
their survival or for the group's survival. The reality is we are all
"High Powered" people if we choose to be (and it is best if we balance
power with love).
Do you know someone who is always trying to be
an "umbrella" for their mate? It's the Umbrella Syndrome.
If you know someone who always shelters another
from the rain, know that they need the rain to grow.
When it comes to the Soulmate experience,
there are several logical and common misconceptions:
1> That they share the same interests and are the same all aspects.
2> That what one mate experiences helps the other mate to grow.
3> That they always grow at the same rate (instead of their own).
Mates are Individuals:
Religion is a highly personal thing and either
a person is religious or not. I am very religious while the person
I have loved most over time is ANTI-religious. For me, religion is an
integral part of my life and a positive good. For my darling, not only
has religion been a waste of time, they viewed it as a positive evil.
Despite this difference over religion, we have loved each other deeply.
Each mate only grows from their own experience
of the universe. If, in past lives, when it has been raining adversity,
hardship, and suffering, one mate has held up the umbrella for another
to duck under, their experiences of life will differ. The mate who has
dealt with the rain will grow quickly (karmically). The mate who has
been shielded from the rain will only grow slowly (karmically). For
good or ill, we grow the most by taking risks and dealing with life
head on... we grow the least by letting others take on the hard stuff
Growth as Soul:
What makes one "old in Soul experience" is
handling life's challenges, what keeps one "young and immature" is
looking to others to take on that burden or that challenge. Just as
you would help a toddler to grow, you have to step back and let the
"young, immature Soul" grow by handling more by themselves without
you automatically taking it on.
Close the Umbrella:
As the saying goes,
"catch a fish for someone, you feed them for a
day, teach someone to fish, you feed them for a lifetime."
If you want to help another to grow, close the
umbrella, stop catching fish, and start teaching others how to do it
themselves (you are helping them karmically).
Do others treat you like a servant? Are you
their "hand maiden"? It's the Hand Maiden Syndrome.
You are a "Hand Maiden" when you allow another
(usually a romantic partner) to treat you badly:
When it comes to decision making, you are a hand
maiden when your mate is always the one who calls the shots. You are
being dominated when your mate is always the one who decides how you
spend your time, your money, and other key decisions. They dominate
you because, as a hand maiden, your opinions, your desires, and your
wishes do not count. If you can never make any decisions, then you
are being thoroughly dominated like a hand maiden.
When it comes to doing favors, you are a hand
maiden when your mate does not ask you for anything but tells you what
you must do. You are receiving demands when your mate is always issuing
orders and making edicts. They can be demanding because, as a hand
maiden, you have no rights only responsibilities. If you are the one
who is always doing for your mate (and they are never doing for you),
then they are always being completely demanding.
When it comes to personal interactions, you are
a hand maiden when your mate acts like a dictator. You are being
dictated to when your mate never is open to discussing anything. They
can dictate to you because, as a hand maiden, you are treated like a
servant and a subject. If your household operates less like a democracy
and more like a dictatorship, then you are, in fact if not in name, a
servant, a hand maiden, and a subject of your mate, the dictator.
When it comes to personal communications, you
are a hand maiden when your mate verbally abuses you. You are being
disparaged when your mate calls you names, refers to you in unflattering
terms, and treats you with disrespect in front of family, friends,
acquaintances, and strangers alike. If your mate cannot treat you with
love, kindness, or respect (especially in public), you are being treated
like an inferior hand maiden… instead of like an equal partner.
If you are tired of being a hand maiden, start
by NOT accepting this abuse! Stop being a hand maiden - NOW!
Are other people always getting the better of
you? Do they treat you poorly? It's the Door Mat Syndrome.
You are a "Door Mat" when you allow others
(whether family, friend, or coworker) to treat you badly:
Open to Receive:
Learning how to give and to receive is an
integral part of learning how to love. Receiving is a lesson we have
to learn in childhood as we cannot provide for ourselves in our early
years and so we must receive from our parents. Giving is a lesson that
karma and reincarnation work hard to teach us. Sometimes we learn the
lessons of giving so deeply that we forget to receive. Our "forgetting
to receive" is what leaves us open to being treated like a doormat.
Others Walk Over Us:
We are a doormat when others always get to do
what they want to do... and we never get to do what we want to do.
Others always get their choice and, as a result, we never get our choice.
It is like we are in the Army and are the lowest ranking officer: we are
always being ordered around by others.
Others Take Advantage of Us:
We are a doormat when others treat what we do
for them as a favor as if it was our obligation. We forget that the
gift of our friendship is one that we are choosing to give and that we
are free - at any time - to stop giving that gift. This allows
others to take advantage of us time and time again.
Others Lie to Us:
We are a doormat when others feel free to lie
to us, to abuse us, and to do whatever they want to us. When we fail to
stand up for ourselves, it is like we are lying down on our stomach,
painting the word "Welcome" on our back, and asking them to treat us
like the doormat that our actions have made us.
Ending the Doormat:
Our "remembering we are divine" is what stops
us from being a doormat. This is how it works:
- We must stand up for ourselves by insisting that others treat us with
the respect and kindness we deserve.
- We must walk away from others who choose to lie, walk over, and take
advantage of us.
- We must walk toward others who choose to treat us with love, compassion,
respect, and kindness.
- We must remember and teach others that we both are divine beings and we
both deserve the best.
Are you always alone when you do not want to be?
If so, you are suffering from Isolation Syndrome.
If you know someone who always isolates themselves
from others (especially groups), it is past lives at work.
In the universe, there are no innocent people in
prison. If they are innocent in the context of this life... they were
certainly guilty in the context of a past life. When people owe a karmic
debt, they can agree to pay it - inside or outside of prison - by
undertaking the very difficult life path of isolation.
When isolation in this life is a karmic
balancing of actions in past lives, they are quite aware that they are
actively participating in their own isolation... even if they do not
want it. Why they have agreed to be isolated now is because they have
banished others in past lives and are now living the effect of that
It cuts the banished person off from lovers,
friends, and family, never to know human companionship again for the
rest of their lives. Those who lived under banishment died hating the
person who caused it and hoping the perpetrator will suffer as they,
the banished, had suffered. Those who caused the banishment come into
agreement to experience it now... to balance their karma.
Ending the Isolation:
If you are suffering from isolation, there
are things that you can do to make it more bearable:
is an exercise that can help you to bring
more love into your life... so that you do not FEEL so lonely,
especially when others are not present. For when you are feeling
truly loved, even though you are alone, you cannot feel so lonely.
Breaking the Chains:
is an exercise that can help you to work
off the chains of your imprisonment... helping to end your banishment
sooner. For when you truly understand and repent the causes of your
past actions, you can become free from their present life effects.