Rules of the House #25h:
Past Life Carry Over Fears - Changes
"Habits... form us. Conquer your
bad habits or they will conquer you." (Rob Gilbert)
When people enter their present life, they have
forgotten that they have chosen the difficulties they are facing now
to resolve unfinished business from past lives.
Often that
business is conquering fears acquired in the past that are no
longer serve them like:
If you are terrified of all the problems success
will bring you if/when you succeed, you have Hedonophobia.
If you fear "something bad" will happen if you
succeed, you most likely have inherited this fearful pattern from
past lives:
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Hedonophobia Defined:
Hedonophobia is the fear of success. The
common belief among those who fear success is that
"what God gives with one hand, He takes away
with the other!" as if an individual is
somehow restricted in happiness that they can receive. This limiting
belief is often the result of past life tragedy.
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Price of Success:
Most people assume that success is a totally
wonderful thing. Most people who are successful will point out that
it comes at a price. That price can be as small as a loss of privacy,
as incovenient as lawsuits, and as large as a loss of life.
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Disapproving Others:
The disapproval of acquaintances does deter
people from success: what usually does is the reaction of significant
others around them. Success means living larger than those who are not
as successful. If we are very close to others who are living small and
if they cannot or will not understand or support our desire for success,
we may unconsciously sabotage our own chances for success so that we
will not lose their love and caring.
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Seeds of Destruction:
Those who are afraid of success will always
find a way to destroy it. For example, this is why so many famous people
"inexplicably" self destruct. At bottom, they do not believe that they
deserve their mega success and so that belief rises up to wreck their
lives... Why? The answer is always found in their past.
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Past Life Tragedy:
The most deeply rooted fears of success come
from past lives. If, in a prior existence, we achieved a certain level
of fame, and we were hurt or killed as a result of it, then we will
carry fear of success deep within us. It can be so all encompassing
and so deeply rooted that we will do everything we can to "shoot
ourselves in the foot" to keep us from moving forward. Often others
will see this pattern of self sabotage more clearly than we do.
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Alternative View:
Frequently, this will be seen by those who are
successful who will "tell us" how and why we are failing. Yet we will
find reasons to ignore and discount what they say while at the same
time wondering why we are not enjoying the success we desire. Next
time, if everyone is saying the same thing to you, try listening to
and acting on what others have to say here… it just might help you to
transcend any deep rooted fears of success that you might have.
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The Hedonophobia Test:
Here is how to know if you are being influenced
by this past life habit (fear of success). Do you have any of these?
Do you believe that "God just will not let me be happy"?
Do you constantly and consistently sabotage your own desires?
Do you feel like you will alienate others if you are too successful?
Do you believe that "it is just too hard/too much work" to succeed?
Do you believe if you "get too much, it will just be taken away?"
Do you believe if you "get too much" others will take advantage?
Do you believe if you "get too much" you will end up alone/lonely?
Do you believe if you "get too much" you will become sick/twisted?
Do you believe if you "get too much" you will be in endless lawsuits?
Do you feel like you are a "phony" and you do not deserve success?
If you are terrified of all the problems failure will bring you if/when
you fail, you have Atychiphobia.
If you fear "something bad" will happen if you fail,
you most likely have inherited this fearful pattern from past lives:
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Atychiphobia Defined:
Atychiphobia is the fear of failure. The
common belief among those who fear failure is that
"no matter what I do or how hard I try,
everything will fail!" as if an individual
is somehow restricted in happiness that they can receive. This limiting
belief is often the result of past life tragedy.
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Homeless:
The biggest fears of failure involve homelessness.
Some of those who end up on the street once had homes, family, and money.
Whether due to illness, accident, unemployment, they lose their homes as
they always feared they would. More often than not, this fear of
homelessness creates the grim reality of it… because, at bottom, the
individual must balance past karma. Those who caused others to lose
their homes in past lives will reap homelessness.
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Imprisoned:
Another huge consequence of failure is
imprisonment. Jail is often where those end up who cannot take care
of themselves or their family. They often resort to crime and fail
at that. Often those who end up in jail were worried about being
imprisoned long before it ever happened. Many times, the "jailhouse
inside their head" comes from a consistent pattern of being a prisoner
in past lives.
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Imploding:
Some who fear failure, when faced with a
situation they are convinced they cannot handle, will just self
destruct. They will fake an illness or self inflict an injury just
to get out of it. If this is a job issue, this will damage their
career prospects. If this is a relationship issue, this may just
destroy it. Many times, this failure to measure up in past lives
caused a permanent injury or a tragic death in past lives.
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Apathetic:
Some are so crippled by the fear of failure
that they stop themselves before they even start. They think
"this too shall fail just like everything
else" so they do not bother to try.
They appear to others as being apathetic, indifferent, and uncaring
about their life… when they are really just fearful of the bad that
can happen to them in life. Often this apathetic and indifferent
attitude came from many past lives when there really was no hope for
a better future.
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Perfectionism:
Many who fear they "cannot be perfect" are often
plagued by fears of failure. These perfectionists may not be failing to
those on the outside but they feel like they are failing on the inside.
The fear of failing may actually drive them to success but at a huge cost
of enormous internal stress. Perfectionism is almost always the result
of an individual having failed in past lives and being determined to be
perfect and to do things perfectly this time around.
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The Atychiphobia Test:
Here is how to know if you are being influenced
by this past life habit (fear of failure). Do you have any of these?
Do you believe that "God/the universe/life is out to get you"?
Are you fearful something will always go wrong no matter what?
Do you believe Murphy's Law: "what can go wrong, will go wrong"?
Are you over-prepared and over-planned to guard against failure?
Do you believe in perfection of body-looks, careers, relationships?
Are you embarrassed whenever you inadvertantly make a mistake?
Do you focus more on avoiding failure than on achieving success?
Are you excessively fearful of making mistakes/doing things wrong?
Do you find fault with yourself constantly, never feeling successful?
Are you unable to forgive yourself for past mistakes/failings?
If you are terrified that tragedy will result
when others abandon you, you have Monophobia.
If you fear tragedy will strike if you are
abandoned, you most likely have inherited this fearful pattern from
past lives:
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Monophobia Defined:
Monophobia is the fear of being abandoned.
In past lives, there was safety in numbers: being alone was often a
death sentence. Life was too harsh and unrelenting for most people
to live without the ongoing help and support of others. This deep
fear causes its sufferers to cling hard to relationships.
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Failure to Keep Up:
In the early days of life on Earth, humans
were nomadic creatures. They moved from place to place: hunting animals
and gathering plants until they were exhausted. Those who were slower
and could not keep up were routinely left behind. If they were abandoned
in places of extreme temperature (too hold or too cold) this was almost
always a death sentence. So fear of abandonment was a defense mechanism
to keep people alive.
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Kicked Out:
In past lives, karmic justice was often swift.
If the group did not like you, all they had to do was kick you out of the
community. If you were at sea, you could awake to find yourself tossed
off the ship. If you were on land, you could be restrained as others
took your possessions, burned down your house, and sold you into slavery
to whoever would take you. This is why those who fear abandonment are
often such people pleasers… because they paid the price of injury and
death by getting kicked out of their community.
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Social Security:
In past societies, being connected to a larger
group was the only form of social security. If you were unable to work
because you were ill or impaired, you were reliant on others to nurse you.
People had children not only to serve as employees while young but as
caregivers in the parents' old age. Going it alone in the past meant a
shorter and more stressful life. This is why those who fear abandonment
end up being so clingy and needy… because the lack of security in the
past caused them great pain and suffering.
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Diaspora Disaster:
In the past, tragedy could strike quickly.
One minute you and your family were living your dull, boring lives of
unrelenting hardship. The next moment raiders could sweep in and kill
or capture your family. If you were not nearby you could come home to
find yourself an orphan. This is why those who fear abandonment try
to stay super close to loved ones… because it was better to share their
fate than agonize over what happened to them forever.
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Die or Be Alone:
Often, if loved ones were ripped away from
people, they would rather die than be alone… especially if they did
not believe themselves to be self sufficient. This is why those who
fear abandonment will say "I will kill myself if you leave me!"
because they suffered from failing to live successfully without
others in their life.
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The Monophobia Test:
Here is how to know if you are being influenced
by this past life habit (fear of abandonment). Do you have any of these?
Do you panic if others are late in arriving to meetings with you?
Do you cling to bad relationships because you fear being alone?
Do you do undesirable things just to hang onto the relationship?
Are you fearful that you will return home and find loved ones gone?
Have you ever said something like "If you leave me, I’ll kill myself"?
Does your constant need for reassurance/support drive others away?
Do you leave a series of messages when you cannot reach someone?
Do you need constant companionship because you cannot be alone?
Do you give a "loaf of love" only to get a "crumb of affection" back?
Do you have multiple "backup" partners in case the main one leaves?
If you are fearful that you will not be able to
meet the challenges of adulthood, you have Didaskaleinophobia.
If you fear becoming an adult or adulthood, you
most likely have inherited this fearful pattern from past lives:
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Didaskaleinophobia Defined:
Didaskaleinophobia is the extreme fear of
adulthood keeping one a child forever. It is also known as the "Peter
Pan Syndrome" and can be caused by unhealed past life trauma:
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Stuck in Child Energy:
When a very recent previous life involved
a painful and traumatic death as a child, the individual can become
"stuck" in the mindset of childhood (neediness, insecurity, and
immaturity) until that past life is fully understood and healed.
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Seriously Physically Ill:
When the individual has taken on multiple,
intense health challenges in the present, they often feel too weak
to care for themselves. So they seek the type of care that only parents
can provide. This level of physical ailments almost always was agreed
to in their
Life Contract
for the resolution of past life karma.
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Seriously Mental Challenges:
When the individual has learning disabilities,
cognitive deficits, etc, this interferes with them carrying out adult
responsibilities (like holding a self supporting job, paying bills,
and so on). This level of mental challenge almost always was agreed
to in their
Life Contract
for the resolution of past life karma.
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Seriously Emotional Handicaps:
When the individual has difficulty in managing
their emotions (too often fearful, angry, hurt, or frustrated), this
interferes with them being perceived as and treated like an adult. This
level of emotional handicaps almost always was agreed to in their
Life Contract
for the resolution of past life karma.
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Serious Overwhelm:
When an individual has taken on too many
physical, mental, and emotional challenges in one lifetime to balance
their past life karma, they are in serious overwhelm and will never
want more adulthood because they have too much already.
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The Didaskaleinophobia Test:
Here is how to know if you are being influenced
by this past life habit (fear of adulthood). Do you have any of these?
Do you tend to focus on fantasies more than reality (what is)?
Do you prefer to live in your head rather than the real world?
Do you tend to believe success will "just happen magically"?
Do you prefer to avoid adult responsibilities and work efforts?
Do you tend to forget scheduled appointments even if beneficial?
Do you prefer to ignore or put off problems or avoid doing anything?
Do others say you are just too child-like and focused on fun?
Do others say you are a "childish adult and need to grow up"?
Do others say you "do the minimum" or do not know what to do?
Do others say your life lacks direction due to uneven performance?
If you are fearful that you will not be able to meet the challenges of
aging, you have Gerontophobia.
If you fear becoming old or being old, you most
likely have inherited this fearful pattern from past lives:
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Gerontophobia Defined:
Gerontophobia is the fear of becoming
old, being old, or of elderly people in general. In past societies,
if you were fortunate enough to survive to old age, you were not
fortunate enough to avoid being incapacitated by it. Aging meant
failing and failing meant a painful and traumatic death.
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Eskimos Floes:
The best known and most fearful death for the
elderly was a euthanasia practice of the Eskimos (Inuit: Greenland to
North Alaska and Yuit: West Alaska). When an individual was old and
unable to pull their own weight, they would be put on a floating piece
of ice and sent off to sea. They were also thrown into the sea, buried
alive in the snow, locked out in the cold, or abandoned while sleeping.
Without shelter or food and with being exposed to extreme temperatures,
the old soon died. The worst part for the elderly was knowing that the
young they had loved and cared for over time had coldly turned their
backs on them... leaving them for dead.
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Chinese Drain:
In ancient Chinese societies, when an individual
was old and unable to pull their own weight, they experienced a gruesome
form of involuntary euthanasia. They would be taken to a funeral not
realizing it was theirs. Part way through the service, they victim would
be led to the center of the "church" where their family and friends would
give them all sorts of compliments. Tears would gather in their eyes as
they were escorted into what looked like a fountain. They would suddenly
be sucked down the drain and then drowned to death. For more on this
practice,
click here.
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Roman Exposure:
In ancient Roman societies, it was a well known
practice to leave deformed babies in the wild. By exposing them to the
elements, they would either be eaten by animals or perish in harsh
weather. The lesser known practice was to do the same thing to the
elderly. The elderly would only be exposed if they had gone blind,
deaf, incontinent, or had become bedridden physically or impaired
mentally/emotionally (as in Alzheimer's Disease).
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Granny Dumping:
This is the modern name for the practice of
leaving the elderly in a public place for extended period of time.
Those doing so risk the safety and well being of the aged and often
hope that the police or the state will take on their care. In past
societies, "Granny Dumping" was frequently a death sentence as it
exposed the elderly to the "criminal element" in society. Often (and
mercifully) this was a compact paying off of past life karma.
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Aged Exit:
In societies which approved of suicide, the
elderly were often pressured into ending their lives if they had
become a burden to their family. Either they were asked to take
quick poison or to use knife to end their life. If there was enough
agreement among the extended family, they would gang up on the old
person and kill them.
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The Gerontophobia Test:
Here is how to know if you are being influenced
by this past life habit (fear of aging/elderly). Do you have any of
these?
Do you have an unnatural fear of the old/elderly/disabled?
Do you have an unnatural fear of aging and the related incapacity?"
Do you believe "youth is beautiful and old is unattractive?"
Do you believe "that young is good so then old must be bad?"
Do you believe "the young are creative and the old are dull?"
Do you believe "the young have it all and the old are losing it?"
Do you believe "the young are interesting and the old are boring?"
Do you believe "the young are tomorrow and the old are yesterday?"
Do you believe "the young are passionate and the old are apathetic?"
Do you believe "the young know it all and the old have forgotten it?"
If you are terrified of all the challenges that the future will bring
you, you have Tropophobia.
If you fear "something bad" will happen in
the future, you most likely have inherited this fearful pattern from
past lives:
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Tropophobia Defined:
Tropophobia is the fear of the future. In past
lives, life was the fearful thing not death. Never knowing what was
coming next and always knowing others could harm them without consequence
made people fear the future. Now, this is the first time in human
history where the person at mid-century would have more in common with
those at its beginning that with those at its end.
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Future Shock:
Compared to past lives, the pace of modern life
is blistering! Future shock - "too much change in too short a time" -
leaves individuals dazed and confused by our "hurry up, keep up" world.
In the past, a person could do everything from building their own house
to growing their own food to making their own clothes. Now these things
must be done for us because too much expertise is required to comply with
modern laws and regulations designed for our safety. Yet this complexity
also distances us from the security of being self sufficient... the
hallmark of those who survived in past lives.
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Information Overload:
In the past, to be considered learned, an
individual need only learn and master what could fit into part of a
modern newspaper. Today "knowledge workers" must carry many books
inside their brains. No one person knows everything about the complex
devices they take for granted (like PCs, TVs, phones, and cars). The
constant need to adapt and adjust to the endless series of new devices
increases our dependence, stress, and overwhelm.
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Razor's Edge:
The thicket of modern laws and regulations can
destroy a person's life quicker than the plague. Get into an automobile
accident, be slapped with a lawsuit, be wrongfully accused of a crime,
find a bio-hazard on your property… and you can lose everything. No
matter how much you have, it can be gone in a heartbeat. Living on
the razor's edge like this or seeing a loved one go through it can
create future shock and bring up painful memories from past lives.
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It Rained Every Day:
The failure to manifest sufficient abundance
can quickly lead to terrible suffering if the person suffers a prolonged
period of unemployment or somehow outlives their money. Contract an
incapacitating illness, get in a car accident, or be unable to leave an
economically depressed area… and you can lose everything. Many times
those who never saved for a rainy day could not do so because, for them,
the karma rained thick and fast every day of their life.
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Outliving Usefulness:
Gone are the days when individuals learned a
trade and worked at it for life… without constantly upgrading their
knowledge. While better living conditions create longer lives, this
also creates greater stress as bodies and minds break down with age
and are unable to keep pace with the tidal waves of future shock.
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The Tropophobia Test:
Here is how to know if you are being influenced
by this past life habit (fear of the future). Do you have any of these?
Are you fearful of "the unknown and the unpredictable"?
Are you fearful of what may happen to you in the future?
Are you fearful of strangers hurting and taking advantage of you?
Are you fearful of losing all you have due to a future catastrophe?
Are you fearful of visions that your future will be a total disaster?
Are you fearful that you will end up being a homeless person?
Are you fearful that you will fail no matter what you do in life?
Are you fearful that you will not be able to meet future challenges?
Are you fearful that your future will be much worse that your present?
Are you fearful that you will contract a horrible disease in the future?
If you are fearful that you will not be able to
meet the challenges of pregnancy, you have Tocophobia.
If you fear becoming/being pregnant-childbearing, you
most likely have inherited this fearful pattern from past lives:
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Tocophobia Defined:
Tocophobia is the fear of pregnancy and child
bearing. Although it is rare, even today, women die from pregnancy
and in childbirth. Childbirth is a creative moment where families are
created in a new generation to work through their past life karma.
Like all creative moments, it is full of danger.
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Female Mortality:
Although death in child-birth is rare, it still
happens. In the past, women routinely died of complications from
pregnancy (baby turned the wrong way, baby strangled by the cord in the
womb, or infection from assistants who were filthy dirty). The rule in
most societies was to save the baby and not the mother. Those who
survived five or more births were rarities. Parents expected that half
their children would die. Husbands were told that they might have more
than one wife in their lifetime given all this. Wives knew that their
life was on the line with each pregnancy. All of this kind of past
life experience creates deep subconscious fears of pregnancy.
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Too Much Fertility:
Infertility was always feared in past lives,
especially when the stakes were high. If you were powerful, you had to
have "an heir and a spare" to ensure the ongoing prosperity of your
family. Yet, the opposite, couples who could conceive readily and
often, caused fears of pregnancy. Women who were continually pregnant
became worn out and old before their time… often dying of exhaustion
at a relatively young age. These past lives of procreative hardship
leave the deepest imprints of present fears of pregnancy.
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Ritual Murder:
The ritual murder of women who became pregnant
outside of wedlock is still practiced. Whether the woman was the victim
of rape or incest, if she was carrying a "bastard" then it had to go…
and her along with it. Often the woman was intentionally impregnated
by a family member who really wanted to get rid of her because she was
too much trouble (as in being unhealthy, unattractive, or outspoken).
The more violent the ritual murder was in past lives, the deeper the
fears of pregnancy become in future lives.
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Ambitions Eclipsed:
Just because one has reincarnated in a
female body, it does not mean they are automatically maternal. Some
women - by nature - would rather work in the world than raise children.
Those who constantly sacrificed career ambitions to motherhood in past
lives can carry fears of pregnancy to block themselves from having
children. This way they can get the career experience they are seeking.
This cause of pregnancy fears usually only last for the single lifetime
where the career focus was agreed upon in advance.
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The Tocophobia Test:
Here is how to know if you are being influenced
by this past life habit (fear of childbearing). Do you have any of these?
Do you consistently avoid sex so that you cannot get pregnant?
Does the thought of pregnancy cause unwanted anxiety reactions?
Do you constantly fear that you might be pregnant (without reason)?
Do you fear being pregnant even right after your menstrual periods?
Do you fear being pregnant even when you have not had intercourse?
Do you fear being pregnant when your partner is infertile/vascetomy?
Do you fear that you will die during pregnancy or child-birth?
Do you fear that you will experience intense pain in child-birth?
Do you fear that you will be somehow incapacitated by child-birth?
Have you ever miscarried due to physical reactions of fear (shaking)?
When people enter their present life, they have
forgotten that they have chosen the difficulties they are facing now
to resolve unfinished business from past lives.
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