Rules of the House #34:
Hallmarks of the Spiritually Lazy
A wise person once said
"the world is actually 80% full of people who
are basically decent and honest… otherwise, it could not function properly."
So the challenge of relationships becomes
NOT to discern the 20% who are obvious problems (such as robbers, rapists, rip
off artists, etc) but TO discern problem behavior patterns among the decent 80%.
Most of these patterns stem from
the central problem of human existence: spiritual
What? ME? LAZY? NAH!!!!!!!!!!
Human laziness has both
cause is the distant memory of when we all were one
in the blissful, unmanifested mass consciousness of the universe. This was
before we all were dumped into the worlds of
which forced us to take action
which forces us to come back until we can act with
total responsibility from the place of unconditional love.
cause is the tendency to seize upon opportunities
for rest whenever they present themselves. For most of human history,
this was absolutely necessary for survival because the universe was a
stressful, hostile place.
So What Is In It For ME Anyway?
Now that the universe is a bit friendlier, the
line between necessary rest and "unnecessary" laziness has gotten finer.
Nevertheless, it is useful to understand how laziness manifests.
Here's how it helps:
LAZINESS IN OTHERS:
For if you recognize such patterns of spiritual
laziness in others, you can save time by speeding up the decision to
discontinue relationships that no longer serve you.
LAZINESS IN YOURSELF:
And if you recognize such patterns of spiritual
laziness in yourself, you can decide to change them and move into much
more empowering ways of life.
Or if you are bored, stop reading now because
your life is what you have made it... and it will not change.
"So What is Spiritual Laziness All About
NEVER HAVING ANY TIME, ALWAYS TOO BUSY SOMEHOW
How a person spends their time always reveals the
most about their character. Those who are in lazy mode have infinite time
to spend on themselves and none to spend on others. Of course, they will
tell you "we'll get together but I don't when but we'll have a good time
then…" Just like they will set a time to do something for you and,
at the last minute, something always comes up.
Or they will be honest
and actually tell you that "something better has come along, it's
really important, I just can't pass it up… I will make it up to you"
next week, next year, sometime, never. The gift of attention is the
most precious gift that anyone can give and that anyone can receive.
When someone is not consistently honoring the gift of your attention,
it is up to you to decide to stop giving it.
NEVER HAVING ANY MONEY, ALWAYS NEEDING FREEBIES
How a person spends their money is closely related to
how a person spends their time. Those who are in lazy mode invariably "want
something for nothing" and often end up wondering why it is that they have
manifested "lack" instead of "abundance" in their life. If I had a dime for
every time someone has told me, "well, I would love to get a healing from you
but I don't have the money", I would be a rich woman.
Like many other
healers, I am willing to work with those who are serious about their
healing regardless of their ability to pay. Unlike others, I insist that
the person honor the energy I am giving them by giving me something in
return. Invariably, this involves the investment of time on their part.
The lazy ones - even those who are on disability and have infinite time
to surf the Web and write volumes about their problems - are the first
who cannot spare a moment to help me by signing my
providing content for the site, or sharing their feedback.
It's their loss.
NEVER ABLE TO PUT "MONEY WHERE THEIR MOUTH IS"
The simple truth is that money is never a barrier to
getting what one wants. Often, the real problem is the willingness of those
who are lazy to "put their money where their mouth is". Like those who always
complain about their terrible problems.
They say "if only
you could tell me in one sentence or less what my problems are and what
I need to do". And when I used to reply (in my early days), "I will be
happy to do so for $5 or $10", the lazy complain it is too much. To
those who spend as much on skin care, I say "what is more important: a
pretty face or a soul at peace?" It's all a matter of one's priorities.
Only they can decide how badly they need the help. As for me, I no longer
encourage this financial laziness...
for what I now do instead to encourage the lazy
to become abundant.
ALWAYS EXPECTING TEN THINGS, "MAYBE" GIVING ONE
Chief among a person's priorities is how they act
about giving and taking. People always know who are the "givers" and who are
the "takers". The lazy tend to be in the "taker" category and to go to the
most extraordinary lengths to keep from having to give. They are the first to
have their hand outstretched when anything is offered and are very energetic
about why they should receive it first.
Not that it is bad to take:
indeed, the universe is a circle of energy. And one cannot give unless one
receives. To receive one must be willing to take. However, when a
person is always taking and always promising to return the favor and it
rarely if every happens, this is the sign of spiritual laziness.
This is why welfare is so insidious because it promotes and encourages
spiritual laziness. For it makes people believe that it is "their right"
to take and helps them to forget that it is an honor and a privilege
they enjoy as a member of civilized society. For those who are not in
true need due to illness or handicaps, there is no reason they should
NEVER ABLE TO GIVE SINCERE & HEARTFELT THANKS
Shakespeare said it best: "the smallest act of kindness
is worthy of thanks" (Taming of the Shrew). Not being able to say thank you
is the calling card of the spiritually lazy. Similarly, when the words "Thank
you" are spoken mechanically with no real sincerity, it is another sign
of the laziness at work. It is truly amazing how those two little words
open up the doors to the universe. All it costs is a bit of thought…
but for the lazy, everything that does not serve their purposes is "too
So we invite you to take the "Laziness Challenge"
right now. If you have read this far, prove to yourself that you are
NOT among the
legions of the lazy
by taking a few moments to sign our
The rest of the information on spiritual laziness will be waiting for
you upon your return.
I think you will agree that not many websites
offer the wealth of information that this one does. If it has helped you
at all, we would like to know it. Show that you care. Everyone likes to
be thanked for their help. And we are no different than anyone else in
that respect… so we thank YOU for your courtesy!
ALWAYS FULL OF ILL CONCEIVED, "HALF BAKED" SCHEMES
Even when the lazy "truly want something", it is often
"way too hard" to put serious thought into manifesting their desires. Of
course, they have infinite energy to talk in vague terms about "what they
could do", "what they should do", and "what they will do someday". Yet they
seldom speak of "what they can do today", "what they will do tomorrow" or "how
in six months from now their plan of action will pay off".
truly listens can discerns the "holes" in this lazy thinking. Of course,
the worst thing one can do is to point out the flaws to the lazy. For
they will take that as an invitation for you to take the actions you
recommend. While the truth that the lazy do not want to hear is "ask
not what others can do for you… ask what you can do for yourself".
"Wishing and hoping" will only get anyone so far. So manifest your
dreams or half bake schemes: it's your choice!
WHERE TALK IS GOOD, ACTION IS ALWAYS LACKING
Of course, not all laziness is created equally. There
are those among the lazy who put the most deep and careful thought into
manifesting their dreams. In fact, their thought is so deep and so careful
that it just goes on forever and never ends.
Although nothing can happen
without thought, in the physical world, nothing can manifest into reality
without action. Often those who do the best are those who just jump into the
deep end of the ocean of action and either sink or swim. Many times
these people are just running with the carefully laid plans conceived
by the lazy.
I cannot count the number of times I have heard: "Well,
I had that idea X years ago. I knew it would work. If only person Y
had not screwed me out it… I was really ripped off… I should sue those
no good !@#$" While the simple truth is the lazy have no one but
themselves to blame. The universe waits for no one and will always
find others not lazy who will do it's work. So if you are not willing
to do the work, then stop "ragging on" those who do and, above all, get
out of their way!
BEING FULL OF PROMISES WHERE ACTION IS LACKING
Common wisdom says the "road to hell is paved with good
intentions" and it's true. Promises made but never kept are the bricks of
good intentions that pave the road. It is a principle of energy that every
word you speak is a command to the universe. Those who have difficulty in
manifesting their desires are those who routinely send the energy of
empty promises out into the universe.
In other words, those who are
unable to keep the sacred promises they make to others drain the power
of the universe to help them. This is because lazy promisers fill the
space around them with the "negative energy" of karmic reactions instead
of with the "positive energy" of manifestation and creation. The lazy
must learn to honor the sacredness of their word from which all good
things must flow.
BEING FULL OF EXCUSES WHERE ACTION IS LACKING
The Latin word "excuse" when translated means "I
am not at cause". Well if the lazy in fact have had a plan and have failed
to take action on it, who is at cause but themselves? It never fails to
amaze me that how much energy the lazy will invest into making excuses for
themselves. It is either "this person screwed me" or "if only that person
kept their promise" and so on.
If only the lazy put their creative
genius in manifesting their desires than in excusing the failure to do so,
they might get what it is that they want from life. Again, excuses, like
empty promises fill the space around the lazy with the energy of karmic
reactions instead of with the energy of manifestation and creation.
ALWAYS PUSHING EVERYONE ELSE TO THE LIMIT
The lazy survive through their ability to push everyone
else around them to the limit. For what others are willing to do for the lazy
becomes what the lazy no longer have to do for themselves. Notice the lazy
almost never push those around them too far because that would be
jeopardizing those who are essential in supporting them in their
lifestyle of laziness. So the lazy push others to their limit
but never beyond it.
And this then becomes the means of turning the
tide back against the lazy. Do less and that will force the lazy either
to do more or to suffer the consequences of being lazy. If you resent
the lazy "for making you do… whatever", the person you should resent is
really yourself. For no one makes you do anything: take responsibility
for whatever you do or do not do. Let the lazy take care of themselves
for a change.
USUALLY HIDING BEHIND A FALSE IDENTITY
If you hate your name, change it to something you can
love and feel proud of. If you do not like the identity you have established
in the world, then throw it out and start over. If you like who you were in
past lives better than you like yourself now, strive to reconnect with
your own earlier wisdom.
For these are all traps that the spiritually
lazy fall into. For the lazy like "to go by" a "grand name" that conveys
their wisdom without their having to put forth the effort necessary to
acquire any. For the lazy love "to beat themselves up" (as in "look at
me, I'm so poor, I'm so wounded, I'm so… fill in the blank) because it
keeps them firmly attached to the problems that justify their laziness.
And the lazy love to tell you "who they were" so you do not have to be
impressed with "who they are now".
ALWAYS LIVING THE DOUBLE STANDARD
"Living the double standard" is the true litmus test
of the lazy (if you do not know what this means, prove to yourself you are
not lazy by looking it up). If even you suspect that someone else is lazy,
ask yourself these questions.
"Would they be willing to do (fill in
the blank) for me especially if I have already done the same for them?"
"If they expect me to do (fill in the blank) for them, would they do (fill
in the blank) for me if positions were reversed?"
If the answers to
both questions are "No", then you have correctly identified the lazy.
For the lazy are never willing to "do unto others" the same things that
they demand that others "do for them". Once
you have identified the symptoms of laziness in yourself and/or others, it
becomes your choice to put up with it or change it… for good. Unless, of
course, you are too lazy!