If you have not lived with chronic pain, then you really cannot know what
it is like for yourself. Here is my personal experience of chronic pain
as well as how it grinds down the machine of your life. I sincerely hope
it will increase your understanding and compassion for those who always suffer.
When "normal" people are in pain, it usually lasts
for minutes or hours but not for days or weeks. The pain starts and ends
and is not permanent. When pain persists around the clock without relief,
day after day, year after year, and is a storm that never ends, it is
chronic pain. I lived with chronic pain for 40 years of my life. I know
all too well that "normal" people just cannot understand it.
Those in chronic pain usually do not complain about
their endless agony because it does not do anything to alleviate it.
Those around them just do not want to hear it… because there is nothing they
can do to help. The problem is that others forget that those in chronic
pain are going to be slowed down, are going to be less functional than
"normal" people, and are going to tire more easily and more often, because
their pain grinds away at them endlessly.
Those in chronic pain usually are ground down
mentally... because they are very reliant on mental processes to deal
with their physical pain. Whether those in chronic pain meditate, do
bio-feedback, practice visualizations, and use other pain control techniques,
they wear down their brain with the endless effort. "Normal" people just
cannot understand how very demanding and time consuming such mental processes
are because they do not have to rely on them.
Those in chronic pain usually are ground
down emotionally… because the constant pain is grinding down their body
and mind. They constantly feel drained, irritable, and weepy. Their
stress threshold is lower than for "normal" people and so they will lash
out "more" than usual for "less" cause. They are more easily triggered
by loud noises, bright lights, and other external stimulation than "normal"
people. They have less emotional control then "normal" people because
they are so physically uncomfortable and so mentally weary.
So, now that you know what it is like to be in chronic
pain, I hope that you will have compassion and understanding for chronic
pain sufferers. Please understand when they need to sleep more, when
they are irritable, cry, or lash out, and when they require greater
compassion and understanding of their situation.
... originates from known, traceable, and treatable physical,
mental, and emotional causes.
... originates from
spiritual and karmic causes which can be discovered, can be traced, and
can be treated... more effectively by non-medical means.
When you are in physical pain, you should first
consult a doctor and make sure you do not have a problem that requires and
is treatable by medical attention. Yet, when you have been through a series
of doctors, and some will not even acknowledge your pain or others will say
"it is all inside your head", or a few will agree you are in pain but offer
you no viable medical solution… you are most likely experiencing metaphysical
pain, rather than medical pain.
When you have seen a series of doctors, when
you have tried a series of physical-mental-emotional cures, and when you
have found no relief, your pain is most likely metaphysical in nature.
For example, one ankle had been in constant pain my whole life. Medical
tests (x-rays, etc) showed that there was nothing wrong with my ankle
physically and it should not have been in pain. Once I healed the past
life causing the pain, it was finally gone for good.
Path of Growth:
When you are in metaphysical pain, it is because
you have committed yourself to a path of karmic growth. This means you
have given permission to your body, mind, and emotions to lead you to
where you need to go to learn, experience, and explore so that you can
accelerate in awareness.
When you are in metaphysical pain, the cures come when
you have learned the spiritual lesson that is associated with the pain.
For example, when you are having recurring nightmares about a past life
event, they will end when that event is healed. Metaphysical pain exists
only to motivate individuals to resolve their past life karma and to move
them forward into a more harmonious future.
Chronic pain may mean that your problems are metaphysical rather
than medical. If you have you suffered from chronic pain for most of
your life without any doctor able to offer you any real relief, it is
likely to be metaphysical. Here is how to tell if the pain is metaphysical
(rather than medical):
Never an Abnormality:
If you were born with a defect or other
abnormality in your body that could explain your physical pain, it would
show up on a medical test (like an MRI, EKG, CAT scan, etc). When it
is a physical problem, if doctors ran the same tests, they would get the
same result. Yet, when you are in chronic pain and no medical cause is
determined, then 99.99% of the time... it is metaphysical. The vast
majority of metaphysical pain is driven by unhealed issues from past
lives... that are crying out - quite literally - for resolution.
Never an Injury:
If you had an injury in your body that could
explain your pain, your medical doctor would diagnose the problem and
prescribe a course of treatment. Most metaphysical problems wrap around
what physicians and medical tests certify as healthy body parts. So if
physically uninjured body parts are in chronic pain, then this pain is
most likely to be metaphysical.
Never a Disorder:
If you had a disorder in your body that could
explain your pain, your medical doctor diagnose the problem and prescribe
a course of treatment. Metaphysical issues can create pain in otherwise
healthy bodies. Even if the individual never had a physical disorder and
has gotten a clean bill of health from a doctor, they still can experience
metaphysically based chronic pain.
Never a Problem:
If you spent many years never having the slightest
problem, when you enter a
new karmic cycle, you can
"suddenly" start having metaphysically based pain. As time goes by, that
"new" pain becomes your way of life and you soon conclude it is chronic.
When an abnormality, injury, and a disorder cannot explain it, it is
metaphysical and will continue until it is healed metaphysically.
When preventative healthcare is too much (Hypochondria) or too cautious
(Hypervigilant), past lives are most often the cause. These kinds of
"defense mechanisms" kept individuals alive during times when medicine
was not much help. That is why such behaviors carry over into the present.
Origins of Hypochondria:
Past lives have taught most of us to be
hypervigilant our health. In the past, illness and injury often created
permanent impairment. A broken bone set improperly meant life-long pain
and dysfunction. A deep wound to the skin meant constant pain from infection.
So it was better to treat
"your bones like glass"
to stop problems before they started.
To better understand the need for hypervigilance,
the past provides an answer. For example, in the novel, "Wuthering Heights"
(1847), "Mr. Edgar Linton" catches a cold which persists for several months
and then kills him. Today, if we take cold medicine, we are upset if our
cold lasts for more than a few days. Most people do not know that, in past
lives, the common cold was an equally common killer of both children and
adults. That is the origin of the phrase: "stay warm because you do not
want to catch your death" from the cold.
When medical technology is lacking, hypervigilance
in stopping problems before they started was a wise strategy. Even for
those who had access to medical help, many ancient cures were worse than
the cause of the problem. Those who lived the longest were those who
focused on prevention and wellness.
Ignorance is Not Bliss:
The opposite of hypervigilance is the
belief that "it will get better on its own!" Many times, in past lives,
this attitude got people killed when the problem worsened and became life
threatening. Most who are hypervigilant now got that way when those they
depended upon died from not seeking healing.
"If it ain't broke, don't fix it!"
When you are
feeling well, stop imagining yourself to be ill. If you feel ill, seek
immediate assistance and follow the treatment. Get regular checks up…
then trust your body to keep you well. That is your body's job. It will
do it for you - if you take good care of it.
Most people with serious health problem have the same three choices. Either
conquer their health issues, live as a slave to them, or die. If you are
like me, slavery will not be an option and you must resolve to conquer them
or die trying to. To do this, here is what you need to know:
The "Medical Paradigm" is the "state of the art"
knowledge in medicine. If what ails you readily fits into the "medical
paradigm", doctors will be very effective at helping you heal. If not,
rather than admit that they are clueless about what to do to help you
(because it does not fit the medical paradigm)... doctor after doctor
will say there is nothing wrong with you. They will tell you
"it's all inside your head"
and then they will label you as a hypochondriac.
Although doctors may have more knowledge
about the functioning of body, mind, and emotions, they are lacking in
one critical area of expertise. They do not know what it is like to live
in your body 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 365 days a year. Only
you know that. So if your doctor starts telling you something about your
body, mind, or emotions that you know to be untrue... get another doctor
who will listen to your personal expertise.
Doctors are trained to recognize "common"
diseases: those problems afflicting 80% of people 80% of the time. If
yours is an "exotic" disorder, chances are that you will know more about
your problems than your doctor does and often you will have to educate
them about "what's wrong" with you.
The vast majority of rare diseases are "caused"
by unresolved past life karma. If you are ready to face up to the karma,
you can either eliminate or mitigate the suffering that is part and parcel
of these difficult, rare diseases. So you must resolve to conquer them
or die trying to: the choice is yours.
"The journey of 1,000 miles begins with a
single step." (Chinese Proverb)
I have been healing all my life. This is what I have learned about the "Long
Change" process: the journey from almost total incapacitation to vibrant
health within a single lifetime.
When your healing journey is a long one, it
can seem that no matter how hard you try, no matter what you do, that nothing
is happening. Yet, as long as you are actively working on improving your
health, nothing could be further from the truth. Every time you go for
healing you take another step forward.
Like those who dug the tunnel for the Chunnel,
the train from London to Paris, all you seem to see is endless mounds of
problems. You clear one and another comes up. You do this day and night
for years on end. You know you are healing but you have not broken through
to the vibrant health you are seeking. Then, one day, like the Chunnel,
you break through and you start feeling better. That would not have been
possible unless you had faith in your progress all along.
Always a Step Forward:
Whenever you go for a healing, you always
get a benefit. Even if the benefit is only that you have declared your
intention to create vibrant health by taking positive steps to heal your
health karma. Each healing step you take leads to the next one and the
one after that. Perhaps this means you wander down some blind alleys
until you find the true path to your own healing process. Yet remember:
it took 10,000 tries before Edison found the one way that led to the
invention of the light bulb. All you need is to find your way.
Just because a healing process did not work
in the past does not mean it will not work in the future. Many times, a
healing modality did not work because you were not ready for it when you
tried it. So try new things, old things, new and old things in different
combinations, etc. Listen to your heart and try, try again whatever feels
right to you. Constantly picture yourself enjoying vibrant health, always
take action toward that goal, and you will achieve it.
Only Quitting is Failure.
In the physical world, the
only way to fail is to quit. As long as you keep on doing what you are
guided/inspired to do in your healing process... you cannot fail. Just
keep on taking healing actions... and you will start to feel better... a
little at a time. Remember that the "Long Change" process is just that:
it takes a long time but you will change in the direction of your dreams.
If you have a past life healing problem, it is likely that you have a
"Black Box" problem as well. Your nearest and dearest are probably
not going to understand what you are going through... nor what it takes
for you to transcend your issues. This is very common and not to be feared.
The Black Box:
"Black box" is a term from engineering. It is a
device, system, or object which can only be viewed from the outside in
terms of its input and output without any knowledge of its internal workings
(like transistors). For most, devices, like TVs and PCs, are black boxes:
they use them without knowing (or caring) exactly how they work. Ironically,
the ultimate "black box" is the human brain.
Past Life Box:
For those who receive past life healing, their
experience can be a "Black Box" to their loved ones. When people have
"normal" problems, loved ones can understand them even if they not
personally experienced them. For example, if someone breaks their leg,
loved ones can "wrap their head" around what this means, they can
understand the treatments given, and they can track the progress of the
recovery. When people have "metaphysical" problems, their loved ones
often cannot comprehend the treatment process or sympathize with the
PL Box Reactions:
Since most people have "no frame of reference"
when it comes to past life healing, they tend to view it as a "Black Box"
with unknown contents. The most common reaction is "fear": fear of the
unknown (about how such treatments work), fear of failure (if the treatments
will work/how long they will take/how much they will cost), and fear of
the unconventional (if knowledge of past lives will interfere with their
religious beliefs). These reactions to the "Black Box" may often cause
conflict between the one being healed and their loved ones.
If there is one area where people seldom agree, it is on
matters of belief. So, if one person wishes to open up the "Black Box"
of past life healing for someone else, they should do so only as far as
the other person's religious belief system will permit. The bottom line
is that a loved one should trust the person who is receiving past life
healing. They should forget about those aspects of the "Black Box"
that they can/will never understand and believe in God's protection!
"One reason God created time was so there would be a place to bury
the failures of the past." (Anonymous)
When a loved one has a past life problem, this means you must make some
allowances for them while they heal and put their tragic past (lives)
Past is Present:
Beliefs, habits, and mannerisms are often how
unhealed issues from past lives manifest in the present… and cry out for
Take the case of
fear of germs. Those who suffer from this fear
believe their life now is at risk from germs… because "unconsciously"
they carry memories of
deaths in past lives caused by germs.
That subconscious past life belief-fear drives habits and mannerisms that
can be very unresourceful in their present life.
Germophobes can spend enormous amounts
of time, energy, and money on "germ-avoiding" habits.
Their relationships are effected when they refuse to touch others -
handshakes, hugs, kisses, etc - because of fear of contamination.
Their work-education is effected when they spend inordinate amounts of
time washing hands, brushing teeth, taking showers, changing clothes,
etc in an effort to stay squeaky clean.
Their peace of mind is non-existent because of constant anxiety over the
juggernaut of germs that are everywhere!
If loved ones try to get a Germophobe to
"be normal" (by their definition) that will only aggravate their
situation… because it is just like ignoring their problem. Here is
where "making allowances" comes in.
Expect that the Germophobe will "cleanse" more often BUT only "complain"
if that interferes with their normal functioning in the relationship, in
the family, among friends, or in society.
There is a delicate balance to be struck between respecting the Germophobe's
problems (which is good) and indulging it (which is bad). Respecting it
means helping the Germophobe get professional help to heal the issue while
indulging it means letting it get worse.
Advice = Safe Environment:
The core issue for Germophobes is SAFETY.
The first step in healing the fear of germs is to make their environment
as safe and as comfortable as possible. This means making it as clean as
possible: maybe that means dusting and vacuuming very often, laundering
clothes frequently, having plenty of soap and cleansers on hand, cleaning
up spills and dirt like a SWAT team, and so on.
The only true cure for Germophobia is for the sufferer to understand that
they are safe and protected in the world, even though it contains unpleasant,
harmful, and dangerous things like germs.
"It is a misnomer to call medicine 'the healing art.' The healing art
is the secret wisdom of the body. Medicine can do no more than facilitate it.
That is all healers can do, too." (Andrew Weil)
Here is how "physical" healing and "metaphysical"
Finite vs Infinite:
The main difference is that "physical" and
"metaphysical" healing is the predictability of the time required for
healing. For example, compare the healing of a broken leg to the healing
of the fear of getting a broken leg. Healing a broken leg is finite and
so predictable. Healing fears is infinite and not predictable.
Finite and Predictable:
X-rays reveal where and how the leg was
broken. Based on them, on the age and body type of the individual, and
on the medical experience with others having broken legs, a doctor can
predict with a high degree of certainty how long the leg will take to heal.
That is how physical healing works.
Infinite and Unpredictable:
In contrast, the fear of getting a
broken leg is an infinite matter, is specific to an individual's past
life experience, and therefore is highly unpredictable. This fear could
come from one past life (and so is easily healed) or from many (and is
not so easily healed). An additional complication of metaphysical healing
is that once a layer of past life issues is healed… new
can surface. This is how metaphysical healing works.
Gradual versus Instant:
Physical healing is a gradual process:
each day the broken part gets better and it progresses towards becoming whole
again. Metaphysical healing is an instant process: once the individual
connects with their past life experience and "gets" the lesson and absorbs
the learning, wholeness is restored in that "ah-ha!" moment as the
underlying karma is healed.
Metaphysical healing does have one important advantage
over physical healing. When past life issue is "healed enough", it is like
chopping off a major tree branch. Each mini-branch and each leaf of that
past life tree do not have to be explored and they fall away when the main
branch has been healed. This would be the equivalent in physical recovery
of a bone which had been 80% healed and then becomes 100% healed instantly
(truly a miracle healing!).
Metaphysical healing does have one major disadvantage
over physical healing. When the past life issues are intense, it can take
many years in a physical body to heal 1,000s years of problems created in
It can seem like the metaphysical healing will never end…
but it does… and it leaves the individual so much better compared to when
they started. All it takes is to be patient with this process and keep
on going until the past is healed.