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Cure #30: Going on the Negativity Diet - Getting Free of Negativity

Negativity Effect: How being negative effects you physically, mentally, and emotionally... in a bad way.

Negativity Diet: How to break the grip of negativity on your thoughts, words, and deeds for good and for always.

Negative Self Talk: How the words you choose create the life that you get.

Negativity Reframing: How you can monitor your thoughts, speech, and actions to kick the negativity habit.

Negativity Zapper How inflicting pain on your body to retrain your mind, while it can be effective, is always cruel.

Negativity Effect

"You can't afford the luxury of a negative thought." (Peter McWilliams)

Have you ever considered the effects that negativity has on you? Here is why negativity is a plague:

* Living in a Negative World: In our modern world, we are surrounded by negativity. Just check in with the latest news. Fires, floods, earthquakes, tsunamis, war, famine, plague, crime, pollution, financial collapse are the steady diet. Pay attention to the commercials and you will become convinced that you are not well enough, not pretty enough, not thin enough, not fit enough… and, in general, not good enough (unless you get their product). So it is pretty easy, in a negative world, to end up thinking, feeling, and being negative… it is not a good thing.

* Physical Effects of Negativity: When we are negative, it has adverse effects on our body. Our whole system experiences stress. Our blood pressure and heart rate rises. Our breath becomes more shallow and higher in the chest (which results in less oxygenation of the blood). Our adrenaline level rises (a constant flow of adrenaline weakens our body). Our muscles become tense and feel strained (usually creating back aches). Our jaw may grind our teeth together (eroding them). Our stomach will churn with acid (which causes ulcers). All this strain will create headaches as well as weakening our immune system (opening us to illness).

* Mental Effects of Negativity: When we are negative, it has adverse effects on our mind. How we filter our experience of the world becomes narrow and limited. We see only problems and never opportunities. We see what will go wrong and never believe things will go right. We attract "gloom and doom" people who only reinforce our sense of "whatever can go wrong will go wrong" and ensure our focus remains on what we do not want to happen. We have no desire to go for our dreams because we believe them to be impossible. We stop ourselves before we can even get started because we know "this too shall fail!"

* Emotional Effects of Negativity: When we are negative, it has adverse effects on our emotions. How we feel about the world becomes dark and desperate. We try things but our despairing emotions are like an anchor that drags us down and eventually causes us to give up on ourselves and quit because we feel hopeless and helpless. Ironically, the only way we really fail in life is to quit. This is the real reason that no one can afford the luxury of negative thoughts and feelings.

Negativity Diet - Attention

"What we focus on, we empower and enlarge. Good multiplies when focused upon. Negativity multiplies when focused upon. The choice is ours: Which do we want more of?" (Julia Cameron, "Blessings")

Negativity limits you: it serves no other purpose than to keep you frustrated, stuck, and powerless. So stop the negativity!

* The Biggest Loser: Are you one of those people who secretly enjoy being negative? Do you like complaining about the bad karma that runs your life? Do you feel you are just unlucky because karma is unfair? If this sounds like you (I hope not), then you are the biggest loser because the cause of your misery is self-inflicted. Self-inflicted because you are repeatedly choosing negative thoughts and no one can chose those negative thoughts for you except you!

* The Negativity Diet: Just as you would choose different diet/exercise if you wanted to lose weight and change your body, you need to choose different thoughts/feelings if you want to lose negativity and change your mind. To see just how much you are effected by negativity… take one day and go on the negativity diet. You should notice a pleasant difference in your body, mind, and emotions from how you usually experience yourself. Here it is:

- Thoughts: When you feel a negative thought coming on (like a complaint or a criticism), think instead "all is well in my universe" (whether you believe it or not). When you make a negative judgment on something (like "this went wrong again"), think instead "all will come out well for me in the end" (just allow the possibility).

- Words: When you hear yourself speaking negative words, stop yourself and speak something positive (like "I am sorry I said [the negative thing], what I meant was [a positive substitute]."). Instead of gossiping about someone, find something kind to say about them instead. Instead of complaining about something, remark that the people involved are doing the best they can. Instead of using curse words, invoke a blessing like "praise God!" Words have power: use them wisely!

- Deeds: When you find yourself doing negative actions, stop yourself and do something positive (like pick up and dispose of a piece of trash on the ground). Ask yourself: "is what I am doing going to help and uplift another right now?" If the answer is "yes", do it promptly and thoroughly. If the answer is "no", stop and decide that either you will not do it or, at least, that you will sleep on it before taking any action. Remember it always feels good to be and to do good.

Negativity Diet - Attitude

"We both read the Bible day and night. Thou readeth black where I readeth white." (William Blake)

Negativity is a highly toxic brain food: if you are eating it every day, you need to go on a diet!

* Black or White?: Is the glass of water half full or half empty? Optimists will say it is half full, pessimists will say it is half empty. Both are true... but it is optimists who focus on the water in the glass and easily get more. While pessimists, who focus on the air in the glass, usually have a hard time filing it up because they focus on nothing and that is what they get. This is because in the universe what you focus on magnifies. This is why optimists will tell you that "the better it gets, the better it gets..." This is why pessimists experience "the worse it gets, the worse it gets."

* Do All 4 Courses: So if you know you are mired in negativity and are sick of it, try these four courses of the "Negativity Diet":

* Can-Will, No Can't-Won't: Focus on what can-will work and what is working. If ten things are failing but one thing is working, focus on what works. Bless it. Give thanks for it. Say "Oh, yes I can" to life, instead of having a "knee jerk" reaction of "This too shall fail" to what happens. Be a CAN-do and WILL-do person.

* Doing, No Done: When you are frustrated and when you say "I'm done", this is the negativity talking. "When the going gets tough, the tough get going." At these times, take a breath, do some research, and find another way to do what you want to get done. The only way you can fail is to quit. Be a Do-er and PRESS on.

* Good, No Bad: Focus on what is good. Look for the opportunities that are hidden in the problem. Believe that this is a universe that is conspiring to bring you your highest good. When you talk about other people or your past, only say positive things, look for the good, and avoid anything else. Be GOOD.

* Kind, No Cruel: Be kinder... to yourself, to others, and to life. If you want to heal your negativity as well as your karma, practice "random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty!" Living with loving kindness is a much pleasanter way to live. Be KIND. Go on this "Negativity Diet" and your life will improve.

Negative Self Talk

"If you don't get everything you want, think of the things you don't get that you don't want." (Oscar Wilde)

Who do you talk to the most? Yourself - of course - so only you can control your negative self talk.

From the Emailbag: "No matter what I do, I feel trapped in an endless cycle of negative self talk. What can I do about it?" The answer is: "You are not trapped but it will take active steps to heal this all too common problem."

* Negative Self Talk: When you speak negatively to yourself about yourself, it is like taking poison because it causes that inner positive spark to die. No one can think, believe, talk, or act for you except for yourself. The single difference between those who succeed and those who fail in life… is their self talk.

* Awareness and Action: Breaking the grip of negative self talk takes two things. One is awareness: when you know that you have a negative self talk problem that is half the battle. Two is action: the other more important half of the battle. Nothing in the physical world is accomplished without action. Effective action requires both a plan and the willingness to work on and stick to your plan… no matter what!

* Plan #1: Shadow Side Issue: Many times, the negative things you just cannot stop saying about yourself… spring from our deepest rooted issues. When you say "I am just not good enough", is that your voice or the voice of a hyper-critical parent speaking? When you say "I am just so lazy", is it that you resent someone in your life who is lazy and who you do not want to be like? When you say "I am no good with money", is it that you are fearful of money? When you discover the real issue behind your negative self talk and heal it, you can end it forever.

* Plan #2: Frown Upside Down: When you catch yourself thinking negatively, stop instantly. Come up with a positive mantra that you will then repeat three times. For example, what I say is, "I have an awesome brain which brings me great abundance for which I am grateful." This is just an example… you must come up with your own positive saying that helps you feel good as it helps to break the cycle of negative thinking... by turning that unhappy frown upside down.

* Plan #3: Be Consistent: Your habit pattern of negative self talk was built up over years… so it will take some time to reverse… that is the bad news. The good news is that the negative self talk habit can be broken in much less time with consistent/persistent efforts. Only you are in control of your thoughts and so you can create them anyway you like. You can stop the negativity if you choose to! Just make that choice from now on in your self talk... persistently and consistently.

Negativity Reframing

"All negativity is an illusion created by the limited mind to protect and defend itself." (Ambika Wauters)

Positive thoughts transform your life by filling it with joy, hope, optimism, and ultimately, success.

* Kick the Negativity Habit: Negativity is a habit that has been created by your repeated choice of thoughts. Since it is a habit, it can be broken with determination, repeated practice, and time. To break this bad habit, two things are required: motivation and commitment. Motivation comes from the desire to stop the damage to your health, your wealth, and your happiness caused by negativity. Commitment comes from sticking to your decision to kick the negativity habit by adopting positive, empowering thoughts, speech, and actions.

* Monitor Your Thoughts: Do you think about yourself negatively? As in, you think things like "I screwed that up again" or "I just can't do anything right" or "I can never succeed because [fill in the blank]", etc. Do you view people negatively? As in, you think things like "No one likes me" or "They are out to get me" or "I'll just end up getting hurt in the end", etc. Do you view the world negatively? As in, you think things like "I just have bad luck" or "Things never go my way" or "Things always go wrong", etc. If so, your thinking is against you. "Negativity Reframing" means thinking the opposite as in "I always succeed", "I am likeable", and "Things always go my way!" All this takes is monitoring and managing your thoughts.

* Monitor Your Speech: If you are wondering about what you are thinking, all you have to do is listen to how you are speaking. Whenever you hear yourself saying anything negative about yourself, others, or the world, stop and replace that with positive ideas and words. Monitoring your thoughts and speech is a consistent, conscious decision which takes time and practice. Yet the effort is well worth it: one positive thought can erase 1000 negative ones while one positive word spoken can erase 100 negative ones. "Negativity Reframing" means finding, thinking, and speaking about the positive in the situation. Soon positivity in thoughts and speech will become a habit... and negativity will be a thing of the past.

* Monitor Your Actions: If you are wondering about the effect of your thoughts and speech, all you have to do is look at your actions. This is where "Negativity Reframing" gains its power. If things did not go your way, what did positive lesson did you learn? How can you use that learning to create success next time? How can you turn that problem into an opportunity? Remember negativity stops you: while reframing events positively keeps you going in the right direction.

Negativity Zapper

"Shake off all fears of servile prejudices, under which weak minds are servilely crouched. Fix reason firmly in her seat, and call on her tribunal for every fact, every opinion. Question with boldness even the existence of a God, because, if there be one, he must more approve of the homage of reason than that of blindfolded fear." (Thomas Jefferson)

Whatever does NOT heal, help, and harmonize the body-mind-emotions should immediately be suspect... like the Negativity Zapper.

* Negativity Zapper: The goal of the Negativity Zapper is to help an individual get rid of their negative thoughts. Whenever the person catches themselves thinking an unwanted/negative thought, they are to snap a rubber band on their wrist - painfully. Then they would replace the negative thought with a positive one. The pain was supposed to train the person to stop thinking the wrong way. This is a form of "Aversion Therapy" and it does work... but it is cruel to the body.

* Painful Learning: Pain can be an effective means of learning… but it is a poor one. As centuries of past experience attests, learning through pain eventually stops the individual from wanting to learn more. The whole reason that your body comes equipped with pain mechanisms is to warn you that something has gone wrong and attention is needed to correct it. Inflicting pain on your body is dead wrong.

* Pain No Gain: Inflicting pain for physical gain is nothing new. Take "Voluntary Trepanning" which involves cutting a hole in the skull to enhance spiritual connection. This will increase an individual's awareness but only for a short time. After it wears off (and it will because they have not earned that level of spirituality), the person is left with a hole in their head that is at constant risk for infection. Same thing with intentional starving or self injury to gain awareness: any seeming advancement in conscious is lost when the body must recover from the abuse.

* Discipline: If you want to rid yourself of unwanted/negative thoughts, then you do not need to inflict pain on yourself. On the contrary, if you use your mind to monitor unwanted thoughts, think "CANCEL!" when you find one, and then replace that negative thought with positive ones… you will have developed the discipline to create anything you want. This creates gain without pain. It also respects the temples of body-mind-emotions that God gave you.

Before using any of these techniques, click here for a "Word of Caution."

Credits: from channeled information.



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