Rules #9a: Rules for Recovery: Getting Better is Being Better
For Those in Recovery
These "Rules of Recovery" are from the most famous recovery source of all: Alcoholics Anonymous - The 12 Step Program.
Recovery becomes the search for
serenity. You may remember the famous
1> RECOGNIZE THAT YOU HAVE A "REAL" PROBLEM
You can never
any problem unless you first admit that you
have one (see the
Rules of Healing").
In fact, from the moment you recognize you
have a problem, your healing process begins.
2> YOU NEED HELP FROM OTHERS TO SOLVE YOUR PROBLEM
If you could solve the problem on your
own, you would have. When you cannot, you need to get help.
3> BECOME OPEN TO RECEIVING THIS HELP FROM OTHERS
Knowing that you need help is no good
unless you are open to receiving it. Openness to receiving help
always involves courage to make an extraordinary leap of faith.
For to heal, we must put ourselves in the hands of others.
4> AGREE TO DISCOVER THE INNER CAUSE OF THE PROBLEM
and your problems are intensely personal
and meant to propel you on a journey of learning (see the
"Rules of Illness").
You cannot heal the problem unless you are
willing to discover it's inner cause. You cannot discover the inner
cause unless you are willing to look within.
5> ADMIT TO OTHERS THE EXACT NATURE OF YOUR PROBLEM
Admitting your problems to others
is what allows the darkness to be brought to light and is
what allows the healing to transform your state of being.
Admitting your problems to others allows them to benefit
by avoiding the mistakes you have made.
6> MAKE THE COMMITMENT TO CHANGE FOR THE BETTER
Changing for the better is simple
but often hard to do. It is simply this: "Choose to love
at every moment: forgive everyone, everything". For
negative emotions - like fear, hate, anger - lie at the
bottom of illnesses and love is the cure.
7> ASK OTHERS TO HELP YOU CHANGE FOR THE BETTER
Change can happen in an instant. To
make sure that the change lasts, we need the help of God
and all other people in our lives to keep our feet
planted on the path of change. For know that if we do not
stick to the necessary changes we have agreed to make in
our lives, our problems will return to us. They return
until we have learned our lessons or our bodies-minds
have no choice but to die. If we die, it so that we can
get another chance to learn to love.
8> PUT THE PAST BEHIND YOU AND MAKE A NEW START
You life can only begin anew once
you have agreed to put the past behind you. You cannot change
the past, you can only become willing to make amends for
it. Others may or may not forgive you. Whether they do or
not, realize that you are making amends primarily for
your peace of mind and to ingrain in you the habit of
always projecting love.
9> TAKE STEPS TO "SHOW" YOU HAVE MADE A NEW START
Our bodies and minds were not
meant to hold negative emotions - they were meant to
receive and give love unconditionally. We cannot heal our
bodies-minds as long as we continue to drink in the
poison that sustained negative emotions and bad treatment
of ourselves and others produce in us.
10> IMPLEMENT THE CHANGE EVERY DAY, ONE DAY AT A TIME
To be effective and long lasting,
change must be a continuous daily process. Many fail to
make changes because doing so forever seems overwhelming.
The process becomes manageable when we take it one day at
a time and allow ourselves to have setbacks without ever
giving up on ourselves.
11> GOD WILL ALWAYS HELP YOU EVERY STEP OF THE WAY
Opening ourselves to God's help is the
only way that we ultimately succeed.
12> AS WE HELP OTHERS TO HEAL, WE HEAL OURSELVES
We are always in the process of healing whether we are
working on ourselves or reaching out to help others.
If you are not covinced that these rules are for real, see how they relate to the Top 10 Causes of Death ... take a few minutes to save your life.
Credits: adapted from "Alcoholics Anonymous: 12 Step Program" www.12steps.org and channeled information.
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